Q: I have a question about masturbation and if my boyfriend masturbates too much. I don't like the fact that my boyfriend masturbates because I feel like I won't be able to please him the way he pleases himself. We've had sex a couple of times but he always ends up finishing himself up. He says it's because he wants to get out of the way so he can please me but I don't know if that's true. What do I do?

- Sandy

A: I would suggest talking to your boyfriend about this and tell him that you want to make him come sometimes and you hope he can teach you how to do it. Then your job is to try not be insecure when he "corrects" some of the ways you've been doing things and to do your best to learn how to please him. Sometimes you should let him finish himself off because that can be fun too.

Have you ever masturbated in front of him? If not, then perhaps you should give it a try. You might find that it's a really fun element to add to your sex life. Of course then you get to tell him how to do it to you. All of a sudden you have a bunch of other things you can to with each other in bed. Variety is such an important part of having a happy sex life that the more different things you can do together the better. The key is to continue to experiment together and just enjoy your new experiences.