Q: I've begun shaving ALL of my pubic area. The sight of it drives me wild and I masturbate regularly. I even talked my wife into shaving hers.

My wife's sexual desire has been waning severely and now to satisfy myself I ask her to 'watch' me as I masturbate. It gives me a feeling of total submission. I'm not sure she really enjoys watching me.

Am I alone in enjoying performing for her ... and how many men shave their genitals?

A: Any question that begins with, "Am I alone ..." can almost always be answered with a no. Even if some sexual practice is extremely unpopular, there are still probably thousands who enjoy it. On top of that, who cares even if you were alone in it? If you enjoy something then great.

Having said that, exhibitionism is a very common source of arousal. Your feeling of total submission is also common‹it's the "S" in BDSM. Many people like this role in their sexuality and there's nothing wrong with it. Of course if you are turned on by there being something wrong with it, you are a very naughty boy. Your wife really should punish you for being bad.

As far as shaving your genitals, this is also a very normal thing these days. Men have finally realized that they can get a lot more oral sex if their wives enjoyed it more, which they usually do if they aren't worried about gagging on little, curly hairs. Once again though, if you feel humiliated at having no hair down there, you should because you are being very bad. Severe punishment is in your future.